introducing: "How Do I Get Him To..."

A while back, i had this idea for something called the "Duck Pond"... but, like 80-90% of my schemes/plots/ideas... it was a F-L-O-P!
so, i'm starting the same TYPE of idea, but with a different basic perspective...

introducing...

i want the "theme" to focus on answering one specific question at a time, with input from readers, experts (if i can find them), friends (both chickies & duckies) &, MAYBE even Boyf Bazinga! (although, most of the questions will most likely be posed by me, so i'm not sure he'll have much to say on the topics!!!)

So...

where do i find my "experts"? I already have my luv guru, Miss Mercedes of "How to REALLY Hold On to the Man of Your Dreams", but i haven't... really... asked her yet..... but, hopefully i can at least GUILT her into it ("But Miss M, i already posted about you on the blog!!! you can't let me & my readers down!!!!" wink wink!)

If you know of any bloggers who focus on relationship advice, please, let me know so i can contact them!!!

MORE IMPORTANTLY:
if YOU want to comment or input your advice to any posed question, PUH-lease keep your eyes out for the questions to be posted & e-mail me your advice. I'll post what i get & make sure to give you a link back! :)

The first question is a BIT shallow, but, hey, you gotta play in the kiddie pool before you dive into the deep end, right?

how do i get him to....

know what kind of jewelry i like?

I've been with Bazinga Boyf for about 7 months now, & Christmas is around the corner. I'm not the typical "BUY ME SHIT" type of girl, but i wouldn't mind something glitzy to admire over Christmas dinner. BUT, how do i let him know what type of bling i like, without being TOO in your face about it?
Do i just say "hey, so you know, i like this, i don't like that.", do i take a catalog & circle/cross off the things i luv/hate? do i give up & just hope that he gets it right & then say i luv whatever he gets me (aka just be happy that he got me anything?).

e-mail me your advice or a link to any experts to Spankyluvsit@gmail.com, tweet me @Spankyluvsit, & keep an eye out for the answers!


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life, luv, & the pursuit of blogginess

ya... you guessed it... it's probably going to be another downer from Spanky*...
i'm not sure yet, though. Right now, i'm just look'n at the blank box, waiting for my words, while my heart is rattling & my head, slightly spinning.

[but that might be because i'm still hungover from last nights bad choice fest starting off in Italy for vino, china for food, mexico for tequila & then, the dumbest thing of all, Jeruselum for a final kick in the ass, a Three Wise Men shot. why do i hate me so much?]

There are a few things that i have been meaning to talk about, but every time i click that "New Post" link, i lose the will to write about them. it's not that things have been bad, per-say, it's just that they haven't been great.

For the sake of time [there's only so much i can write in a half a lunch break], interest [there's only so much that you can possibly care to hear about my crap!], & my own sanity [it's never good to dwell... i hear...], i'll try to keep this minimal. only the necessary facts. short, sweet, simple, to the point.... o man, i'm already dragging on...

$$$:

i've been plagued by an unfortunate happening.
without getting into too many details, basically, i was affected by someone else's mistake, & now i'm literally paying for it. It's put a major speed bump, once again, in my steps toward a happy & productive life. basically, i'm $300 down, & feeling like my little pawn has been sent back to start [SORRY!]... i'm hoping to get everything worked out as soon as possible, but it just always feels like there's something in the way. I cross one thing off my to-do list, but, in the same breath, have to add 5 things to the bottom of it.

bloggie:

i need to know what to do, where to go, how far i can take this thing & basically, i guess i need my ego fed, my head inflated & a solid pat on the back to know everything is going to be ok.
how co-dependant am i?! wow.
it's true though. i feel like i hear some wonderful feedback from a few people, but i'm not sure about the rest of anyone. is there anyone else out there reading this?
Can you say hi, so i know?
say hi so i can stop being a droopy loser, perk up & keep on truck'n, err.... typing. whatever.

[to those of you that are always commenting, always e-mailing, showering me with unbelivably gracious compliments & luvs.... you're my heart, my drive, my rock, a million thank yous to all of you. you are how i know i'm not talking to a virtual wall]

Lent:

I'm not religious, i can't even spell "religious" without really thinking about it, & usually having to try again. I gave up something last year & treated it as a challenge. I don't know if that's like anti-faith, or whatever, but i figured it was a good enough reason to give something up.
Last year, i gave up fried foods & after 40 (46 actually, according to Western practice, which i think is weird) of craaaaaving french fries, i had one & it was... good... but i didn't NEED it.
I'm beyond thankful that i chose to challenge myself that way. It was the kickstart to one of the best things i've ever done, in my life. Now, almost a year later, i've lost a lot of weight, i feel fantastic, & i no longer eat massive quantities of crap food. [more on this in a later post. Feb 25 will be my one year since i started dieting.]
This year, i'm taking the same challenge, but instead of attempting to improve my physical state, i'm attempting to improve two other factors.

my lent goals:

give up cheese. [maybe, we'll see how it goes. one day at a time.]
give up on unnecessary spending. [really thinking about want/need ratio before making a purchase. do i NEED the $100 Red Suede SCHANNO pump with metal appliqué from Aldo, or do i WANT them? - want. do i NEED the $40 Artist Jeans in Medium Destroyed Wash from American Eagle, that i have a 10% off coupon for & that would be a solution to the problem that i don't have one pair of jeans that fit me, or do i WANT them? - need!]
give up on stressing over dumb boys. [i'm so sick of meeting a guy & then thinking about him constantly, wondering if he's going to call, wondering if i should call, thinking about what to text, wanting to see him, never hearing from him, meeting another guy & starting over. NO MORE! fuck it. from now on, i'm the playa, god dammit! these dumb ducks can come to ME! ha]
which brings me to...

my next post....

about, what else... 

a new duck...

 

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date me not.

i never ended up telling you about my date with Banks.
i went out with him last week & it was nice. he was a very nice guy & the conversation was fluid.
 

wow. i guess i couldn't even type it to fool you, let alone myself.

i went out with him again tonight. again, he's very nice, the conversation was good, solid, never a boring, dull moment.
 
no butterflies.

dammit.

 
i wish i knew why i wasn't able to let myself like a nice, sweet guy who is perfectly interested in me.
 
i guess i like jerk, asshole, douche-bags?
 
[doesn't]
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Too Hot Tuesday: [double feature] Johnny Pacar & Nico Tortorella

it's usually not my style to lump hotties together [actually, that doesn't sound too bad] but given that i just couldn't make up my mind, i'm putting these two co-stars in one THT this week.

Johnny Pacar, 28 & Nico Tortorella, 21 are both on the abc family show "Make it or Break it", which i had never seen a moment of until i stayed home sick yesterday... &... watched.... a marathon...

[guilty!]

Of the two, J. Pacar def looks younger some of the time, but he's not at all. He's actually got a bit of a James McAvoy thing going on... & we know how i feel about James McAvoy... drooool. He plays Damon Young, the rockstar, pizza shack employee & current squeeze of the main character, Emily Kmetko. Last we see Damon, he hosts a romantic evening on the roof with Emily the night before he goes off to LA (from Boulder, CO) to make it big selling some of his songs.

From what i gather (ok, so i only watched half of the marathon, the first half was missed while i wallowed in my noggin-pain) Emily's first interest was Razor, played by N. Tortorella, James Dean/Rockstar wannabe who secretly used to be a Mathlete, Damon's friend & also employed at the Pizza Shack. When he left, he apperantly asked Damon to "fill in for him" when HE went to LA earlier in the season... not knowing that would [duh] lead to a romance between Damon & Emily. He was awfully cute though when he stuttered through making the realization when arrivinig home & spotting them, lip locked, on the roof, surrounded by twinkle lights  

[awe!]

blah blah blah... i'm lame, i get so into these teen dramas!

bottom line, they make for wonderful eye candy, only it seems that when one comes back, the other leaves! Dammit fictional LA, stop taking away the boys!

Johnny Pacar, 28

credit: Make it or Break it, Ghostwhisperer. 

 

[xox]

  

Nico Tortorella, 21

  credit: Make it or Break it, The Beautiful Life: TBL

i cannot chose (not that i have to) which is the bigger hottie... what do you think?

which make it or break it boy is the bigger hottie?
	Johnny Pacar
	Nico Tortorella
	neither, i'm lame and don't like hot boys.
pollcode.com free polls

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Let's give 'em something to DROOL about!

Here are some tips that i came up with to looking your best. Most of them i follow, some of them i'm reallllly working to make sure i do.

Some of you might think, "Spanky, since WHEN do you give tips? Aren't you basically all about telling us all the shit you luvs? aka Shia Labeouf & various other hotties?" - to you, i say "ya... but i changed my mind today.. so deal with it!" JUST KIDDING! I LUVS YOU!

-the real reason for this post is to segway myself into more content posts and less rambling and posting pictures. I like doing all that, and i will keep it up, but lately, i've started feeling like i may want to point my life towards writting as a career... So, what better way to do so than by WRITTING on my blog... not just commenting on other things.

It's important for us chickies to be desirable. Just because we might not want a guy, doesn't mean that we don't want him to want us. This doesn't make you a tease, it makes you a woman. be serious... would we have been built like this if we weren't supposed to be yearned for? I don't THINK so! (wow.. that sounds kinda shallow, doesn't it?)
nevermind that. more importantly than being wanted, it's FEELING wanted that makes the effort of dressing up worth it.

So... here we go... i'm taking a crack on giving some tips. enjoy!

-don't overdo it all the time. You have to have a happy medium. If you dress really nice all the time, no one can ever be blown away by your beauty when you go through the effort of REALLY dressing up. There's nothing worse than shelling out a shit-ton of mula on a nice dress and spending hours getting ready for people to not really notice... The world is a stage, give your audience a reason to aplaud. Every day is the suspence building up to your grand finale (no, not the day you die... the day you actually decide to go all out & dress up... life changing days, Prom, fancy events, your wedding, class reunions... y'know...)

-don't let your nails get gross - keep your polish fresh, or nothing at all. (i do NOT do this, i should, but i don't... remember, do as i say, not as i do!) i painted my nails quickly for a h.ween party on Saturday & now they look like shit. My costume called for something interesting, so i went with black with a purple ring & pinkie on the right hand. I'm not sure why, but it seemed appropriate (photos to come soon...) Now, since i haven't wanted to take the time to fix them up, knowing i'm going to have to repaint them this weekend for h.ween, i've left them. They look gross. To pour fuel on the fire, my anti-anxiety medication has been making my nails break, so they're just awful.
--if you have the raw materials to keep your nails luvly, DO IT. people really DO notice... i'm always embaressed over mine if they're yucky... even simple, short nails are gorg if they're painted right, you just HAVE to keep up with it!!!

Eva looks lurvly with her dark nails... is that charcole? Navy? dunno, but me likes!

-dress it up. No matter where you go, make it cute. Even if you're going to the grocery store & you're wearing sweats, wear a tee that's cute with your ratty, oversized sweats. You'd be surprised how much you can dress up a messy bun or impromptu pony tail with a front poof, side braid or a bow clip. (also, head band, a "cheer bow" or even just some styling clips for a unique look!)

Fashion Club Vice President: Quinn Morgendorf

-Listen to Quinn from Daria - Wear big shoes... as the Cartoon Fashionista says "The bigger your shoes are, the cuter the rest of you look in comparison!" - (even though, it occurs to me, Daria & Jane's boots are WAY bigger than Quinns...) i'm not saying turn into baby spice, but think about the cuteness factor of Uggs with leggings and a jean skirt (i've heard, first hand, that guys go CRAZY over the Uggs & jean skirt combo... boys are so easy...)

side note... who didn't think that Trent was the hottest cartoon ever, a-yum! bad boy cartoon duck!

-If you don't have time to put on a full face, at LEAST brush some mascara through your lashes. it'll take 45 seconds and you'll look bright eyed. If you have another 20 seconds to spare, dust on some bronzer on your cheeks & nose. You'll look just a tad sun kissed & it'll give you a healthy glow (be careful! I've gone overboard with this before & it totally screws you up. take those 20 seconds to really apply carefully... if you rush for 10 seconds, you'll end up having to start all over, or go through the day looking like you fell asleep awkwardly in a tanning bed - no good!)
--do NOT think that you can get away with putting mascara on at a red light. do NOT! i will bet you that you WILL poke yourself in the eye, get mascara all over yourself and have to drive with one eye, swearing at yourself & feeling around for a napkin to wipe it off your hands...

-Don't wear your fat jeans unless you need to. Yes, i know, anyone who knows me in the real world is coughing out "HYPOCRYTE" right now... trust me... i realize that this is my BIGGEST mistake in fashion... Honestly, i've only been skinny again for a few months & i haven't had the money to replace all my jeans (even though... yes... i DID splurge on the faux leopard fur coat... so, my priorities are a little askew... sew me!)
--They just end up making you look bigger (UNLIKE big shoes). It might make you feel skinnier to be able to pull them off without undoing the button, but the amount of time you'll spend worrying about if your thong is showing, is not really worth it. plus, it ends up making you look bigger than a paid of well fitting jeans would. Show off the ASSets!!!

So, how did i do? Let me know if you have any tips to add to this list. I'll keep it on a side bar so we can add to it!
--also! I'm working on a list of "how to live a Scandelous Life"! Send all your ideas for this list to SpankyLuvsIt@gmail.com!
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